My Couch/ Ocd

I have really good days and really bad days. I want and need more of the better days and in order for that to happen I need to stand up to my OCD.

I recently shared a story called Resisting The Urge. In that post I explained about the “problem” I have when making my bed. Well I also have a “problem” when cleaning the couch.

I have a sectional L shaped couch. It has 5 bottom removable cushions and 6 backside removeable cushions. Every week I remove each cushion and wipe out any crumbs or items that get lost in the couch.

It shouldn’t take me to long because it usually doesn’t have much to be cleaned out.


I have mentioned in past posts, my OCD “thoughts” will have me cleaning things regardless if it needs it or not.

Anyway back to my couch story, here is the process I go through when cleaning the couch.

First, I use a rag and wipe off the whole couch.  Second, I remove the first cushion and wipe any crumbs out. Third, I put the cushion back. I then proceed to clean under the remaining cushions.

Now heres the tricky part, as I am cleaning the very last cushion, and then placing it back, the minute I let go of it, I have to have a “happy thought” in my head. It has to be at that exact moment my hand lets go of the last cushion. Because if I have a “bad” thought, in that moment, guess what I have to do?……You guessed it, I have to go back to the first cushion and do it all over again.

I know this may sound a little confusing, I tried to explain it the best I could.

I have NEVER been able to do this only once. It usually takes about 4 times, but I have gone all the way to about 28 times. 28 times! 28 is one of my “good” numbers.

I have been doing E.R.P therapy the last few months. For info on E.R.P click here: ( ) It’s very hard work but I want to learn how to live with OCD and not let it control me. E.R.P therapy will help me get there.

If I can stay strong and continue to resist doing things more then once, I will finally be in charge and NOT OCD.

So back to the couch. I  cleaned it once. I started to clean it a second time, because those unwanted horrible thoughts were becoming more and more difficult to sit with, BUT I stopped myself.


I’m trying so hard to be in control. Im trying to stand up to those dam thoughts.

I know some of you don’t understand why it’s so hard for me. You probably read this and think how can this woman do these things so many times just because of some thoughts in her head.

I wish there was a way to help you understand how difficult it really is. I wish there was a way to help you understand I’m not really crazy, it just sounds like I am. Lol

Try to imagine having such strong thoughts telling you if you don’t do something then you or someone you love will get hurt. Those thoughts and feelings are horrible. Even though you know it sounds crazy, and even though you know you can’t control the outcome, you don’t have that “magical power” you just don’t want to take that chance. You can’t take the risk. You couldn’t handle something like that happening so you do what you can to make the thought go away.

Only the thoughts don’t go away. If they do they come right back.. So your stuck in the crazy cycle of repeatedly doing something that should have been done once.


Today, I will not repeat cleaning my couch. Today I will use whatever tools I have memorized and apply it to this situation. Today if I can accomplish this then I will be another step closer to winning.

Tomorrow I may not be able to do this. Tomorrow I may not be as strong. Tomorrow I might go back and clean my couch.

But today I will not. Today I stand up and face my OCD, I will not back down.

Have a wonderful week.

If you are struggling, no matter what it is, please speak up and ask for help.


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Just learning how to enjoy life with ocd. My mental health has been interfering with my daily activities for far to long and now that Im 50 its about time I start enjoying life and taking chances.

14 thoughts on “My Couch/ Ocd

  1. Sometimes the first step is the hardest. Sometimes I have to take the first step over and over. Many times it helps.

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      1. I’m not. The problem is I’ve had other urgent priorities the past 4 years. Since 4 years ago I’ve been unable to work, then family made me homeless. I actually learned about OCD whilst homeless living in my car. Since then I’ve been in temporary accommodation (also when I began blogging) which has been a struggle in itself and more ridiculous trauma. I managed to raise money for private diagnoses (OCD and autism).
        Honestly I feel bad explaining this to a new person, it just makes me want to laugh at how tragic it really is. That’s just scratching the surface. Of course my period of homelessness included lots of unmentioned traumatic events 😆. So basically, I haven’t had the stable accommodation or finances to pay for a therapist, and state mental health treatment here is non-existent. At the moment I’m happy if my environment is calm enough to blog, and I’m being moved to a new place next Monday.
        Besides blogging being extremely supportive, I have 2 local charities here helping me with keeping the benefits system on my side. So that’s some saving grace! It’s just one day at a time :).

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      2. Wow Robin I’m so sorry your having to deal with so many issues at once. You are much stronger than you think and I truly hope the best for you. Thank you for sharing so much about yourself. I know that is not easy to do. If you have any questions you can always email me and I will do my best to answer correctly.

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  2. I understand completely. I have social anxiety so I have different thoughts, absurd thoughts, but they come with conviction and persistence like people are following me every time I walk alone, but if I’m walking with someone, the fear of being robbed or kidnapped disappears. Also, I have to double-check that I turned off the stove, the water motor and closed the door, even when I know I didn’t turn them on. I need to hear the door slam to make sure and I often go back up the elevator or stairs just to check. Sometimes I resist and so I fear that we are going to be robbed the whole time I’m out. I guess that’s a bit OCD. I haven’t been diagnosed with OCD but I am pretty organized in a way that things must be symmetrical, and I count the times I mix the spoon in my coffee or tea when I’m really stressed out. I used to count my age, but now I count to 20. I rarely do it now but I used to do it a lot before I got married. I have this fear that everyone who looks at me hates me, and that everytime my left ear twitches, people are talking about me. I especially fear with conviction that my husband has another wife and another family somewhere when there are no signs that point towards this. I have this fear that someone someday is going to go to my husband and tell him everything bad about me, even the things that no one could possibly know. I have many more fears but I’ll leave it at these.


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